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It’s my birthday week!!! Thank you @madisonryleephotography for these beautiful photos.

I really enjoyed being able to take photos with Madison because I can truly unmask and do photos the way that feels right to me. There’s no rush. And it is by far the most sensory sensitive photos session I’ve ever had.

#birthdaygirl #birthdaycake #birthdayqueen #birthdaycrown #mentalhealthismagic

Afternoon of #baking. New recipe I am working on; Gooey pecan walnut bars.

#mentalhealth #bakingfromscratch #theartofpie #pecanpie #walnutpie #chocolatepie

Modern Psychology has been built for those who have power and privilege.

This field created the language, tools, and practices to individualize problems that are social in nature. This individualistic approach perpetuates oppression in certain groups.

Those groups being black and brown-identifying peoples. CBT is often suggested for BIPOC persons because it involves reprogramming thought patterns. So, what’s wrong with that?

Well, when CBT is applied to BIPOC persons, it is essentially forcing them to think their way out of racism–which is not their responsibility. Experiencing racism is traumatic for BIPOC communities CBT just does not address trauma in the ways it needs to.

In my next video I will discuss therapy alternatives for people of color.

What does it mean to decolonize therapy?

What does it mean to decolonize therapy? Based on my research, decolonizing therapy involves looking at how the mental health industrial complex continues to inflict a lot of harm on people because it chooses to remain apolitical.

According to Dr. Jennifer Mullan, it is to to reconnect to the humanization of therapy, to reclaim therapy, to include systems and oppression into our therapy practices and analysis, and to re-humanize therapists (bring them down from some pedestals), as well as to center the person and their cultural and political identities back into

Alternative therapy types for Race-based trauma

Integrative Therapy
Client-centered Therapy
Gestalt Therapy
Psychodynamic Therapy
Psychoanalytic Therapy
Mindfulness-based Cognitive Therapy

To get more technique focused:
Parts therapy
EMDR
Role Playing

Ultimately, many of the therapy interventions used today are developed by old white men. Decolonizing therapeutic methodology is vital in order to get to the core of healing.

Here are all of my resources for this video series:

Decolonization and POC centric info:
Anuradha Varanasi
Dr. Jennifer Mullan

Therapy techniques and history info:
Margaret Clausen
Deborah Bailey
Brown University

Fox has been autistic his whole life. He has blossomed into a sweet, caring, young boy with so much heart and love for the important people surrounding him.

Every year on my birthday I raise money for advocacy groups that support autistic people living the fullest life possible. This year our family would appreciate donations to Autism Society.

The Autism Society strives to empower individuals who experience Autism and their families to make informed decisions in the planning and delivery of individualized, evidence-based services and support. Each individual and family has the right to choose the services that best meet their individual needs.

My goal is $500 this year. Please consider supporting the beautiful autistic peoples in our world on behalf and in honor of my beloved Fox 🦊.

Swipe three times to hear my favorite impact moment from my podcast with @loammusic ❤️.

#kjzz #podcastersofinstagram #altaz #933altaz #vulnerable #vulnerability #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness

Hi everyone! I've never actually introduced myself.

I'm Sarah Potter, I speak on how social media affects our mental health on my podcast, Social Media Therapy, and I am also a marketing consultant with my business, Mother of Marketing. I've been in marketing for going on 12 years and am proficient in product marketing, social marketing, digital ads, and overall marketing strategy development and execution.

Some fun facts, I'm a mom of three (8 months, 8 yrs, 9 yrs), abuse survivor, mental health influencer, ADHD woman, and mother of an autistic boy (who is the sweetest). I divorced my abuser coming up on 9 years ago, and have since remarried and found out what a partner actually is.

I love mentoring newbies in the world of social media and marketing and am a data and numbers driven person. My podcast originally started out as a way to help social media managers handle their mental health and has transitioned into helping the world understand what social media is doing to our brains.

Currently, I'm looking for new guests on my podcast. The perfect guest would be an active social media user, has had experience with mental health in some way, and has an impactful story to share with the world that can help people propel themselves into their higher self. Therapists, psychologists, coaches, etc are a plus! If you have a story to share hit me up in the replies of my post and let's connect.

#mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #adhd #mentalhealthpodcast #podcaster #intros

My whole 30(ish) fruit cookie.

Something I do that’s great for my mental health on the weekends is come up with desserts or try out new dessert recipes because @csaffitz has me addicted to perfecting my technique.

This cookie is fussy. The dough was easy. I decided to get fussy with the fruit because I wanted to pour intention into practicing fruit cuts and placement. I’m a trained artist so this allowed me to be a little geometric with the design.

I get really wrapped up in the process and making stuff, be it a meal, a kid craft, or dessert. My ADHD super power of hyper fixating really empowers me to throw myself into the process (which often feels like a science experiment).

If you want the recipe comment below!

#fruittart #phxfood #tart #fruitcookie #fruitdessert #dessertrecipe #dessertporn #dessertperson #intentionalliving #adhdwomen #baking #bakingisscience #science #kirchenscience

On the days where I’m really struggling, and I mean REALLY struggling, each of these family members of mine really shows up for me.

If I’m in bed for the day, Ted runs the household-no questions asked, no complaints.

If I’m being super triggered Fox comforts me by reading a book and giving me endless hugs.

If I’m sick to my stomach Arya brings me water and crackers and helps Ted with the baby.

Finn just know a when I need support most and is by my side the entire day.

As someone who is chronically ill, it can be difficult for everyone and I get that. It’s so hard to deal with the guilt and grief after a long sick day. I’m actively working toward better health everyday, it is hard though.

Spoonies understand this and I’m so great full to @faithfulwithafew introducing me to the spoonie mentality.

Side not, this pic is literally seconds before he fell asleep during pictures.

#spoonie #spooniesupport #spoonies #chronicillness #chronicpain #chronicfatigue #imaybechronicbutthisassisiconic #sickday #mentalhealthday #familysupport #supportive #lovemypartner

Curated VS what actually happens in real life.

I have so many spit up photos on my phone. Not because I intentionally take them, it just happens. Spit happens.

I’m going to keep living authentically and sharing gross things and funny things because they are real.

It is also mentally exhausting trying to curate my chaotic ADHD life. I function well enough to know that authenticity, even if just for myself, is the key to happiness.

#authenticity #authenticlovemag #spitup #babylife #teammotherly #papayacommunity #natural #babyboy #winter #michigan #reality

Things people with Bipolar I want you to understand

No two people experience bipolar disorder in the exact same way

We can’t just snap out of a mood swing

Bipolar doesn’t just go away. We learn to manage it over the course of our life.

We’re not crazy, or dangerous. We’re perfectly normal in a lot of ways.

Bipolar and Schizophrenia are not the same thing.

We can’t “just go do X and you’ll feel better.” That’s not how bipolar works.

Manic episodes don’t mean we’re going insane. Mania is having high energy levels, reduced need for sleep, euphoria, etc.

We lead normal, happy lives, as long as we’re managing our disease and getting support from our environment.

SOURCES: @selfmagazine @ravishly @jandriakos and @erinmckelle

#bipolar1 #bipolarawareness #bipolarmemes #bipolaridade #bipolardepression #bipolarchallenge #bipolardisorderawareness #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalbreakdown #mentalillness #mentalhealthrecovery #mentalhealthmatters

Being diagnosed with ADHD in the summer of 2021 has really opened my eyes to so many things. ⁠
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Things like - my personality “quirks” are ADHD quirks. My brain is also wired differently and it has always been that way. I’m depressed because my ADHD was unaddressed (and now that’s changing). Procrastinating is a coping mechanism for my high-functioning anxiety (also gifted to me by undiagnosed ADHD). It’s okay for me to unmask and show my true energy levels. I actually don’t like being in chaos. ⁠
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And so much more.⁠
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I’ve also made so many new connections with other women who have ADHD and these are some of the things women with ADHD want you to understand…⁠
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1. We’re not chatty⁠
2. We’re highly sensitive to sound⁠
3. We also stim⁠
4. We struggle to take our Christmas tree down after New Years ⁠
5. We wished you saw us as kids⁠
6. We have other mental health conditions now too⁠
7. We’re tired of being ignored by the DSM⁠
8. Toothpaste is gross⁠
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That being said, if you are a woman and think you might be ADHD get help. Demand a diagnosis. Do not rest until you have definitive answers. There’s a community of ADHD women behind you every step of the way. ⁠
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#adhdinwomen #adhd #adhdsucks #adhdsuperpowers #superpowers #powerful #selflovejourney #growth #personalgrowth #undiagnosed #growingupadhd #ididntknow #coping #copingmechanism #learning #learnoninstagram #learnonig #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #wakeup #wakingup #awake #thingsididntknow

Special thanks to @danabanafofana @_jessicawester and @adhdfemaleentrepreneurs for inspiration.

Hand pies for the holidays.

#handpie #pielove #piemaker #blueberrypie #pies #feministbaker #baker #baking #christmaspie #desserts #dessertlover

Happy holiday. ✨

My husband told me it’s in the budget for me to take a week off to *actually* take a vacation so I’m holding space for myself and doing what feels right.

Today we enjoyed the snow.

#detroit #michigan #holidayseason #christmastime #makingtraditions #livinglife #lovinglife #peaceful #joy

It’s a photo dump!

Friday vibes if ever there were any.

It’s okay to hate today. You don’t have to like it. You don’t even have to deal with it if you can’t right now.

Take this as personal permission to do what you need most today.

#mentalhealth #twitter #tweets #mentalhealthtweets #qotd #quotes #healing #selflove #dayoff #aesthetic

Going to an influencer event raises red flags for myself. It makes me feel like an imposter.

But I do it any way and it push myself to make connections.

I could admit I talked too much or I wasn’t cool enough, or that having my baby with me made it hard and isolating.

But, I still went. I pushed those things aside and was present AF. That is an accomplishment for this highly anxious woman.

Also, praise be to coffee.

Why go anywhere else than SPCE?

this place offers creature comforts galore. Spacetastic avocado toast to creative and unique crafted drinks; SPCE has it all.

December 4 is the grand opening day whether you stop by this evening or another day make sure it is soon because this coffee shop is out of this world.

@spce.phx @spce.2go

#CreatureComforts #CoffeeShop #CoffeeShopPhoenix #PhoenixCoffee #SpaceCoffee #GoToSpace #CoffeeInSpace #Space #MentalHealth# #CaffeineAddict #CaffeineAddiction #BestFoodphoenix

Anyone else more creative while they should be doing more important things? 😬🙋🏼‍♀️

#creativityeveryday #creativity #adhdprobs #mentalhealth #adhdwomen #adhdentrepreneurs #adhd #twitterquotes

Things people with depression want you to know

1. We’re always faking our contentment (and are tired of it)
2. We’re tired of proving we’re depressed and shouldn’t have to be suicidal to prove otherwise
3. A good day means we were able to get out of bed and brush our teeth – and yes, do other things.
4. Bad days are incredibly unbearable (I, for one, binge eat or starve)
5. We’re constantly burnt out on work, life, friends, family (but are still able to manage living)
6. We feel isolated and paralyzed to reach out. Reach out to us please.

I once had a friend who posted on Facebook, “Facebook isn’t the place to talk about how depressed you are. Stop whining and get over yourself.”

I mean…😳😳😳

That comment did not age well. And also, imagine the harm and damage done to people who are genuinely struggling.

People with depression have a very hard life and are doing everything they can to just make it through. Give someone you know with depression a hug, a cookie, and reminder that you’re always there for them-in good and bad times. Those who have mental health conditions are truly suffering inside at times and just need to be shown compassion.

#depression #depressionhelp #depressionawareness #depressionsupport #compassion #loveandlight #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthrecovery #mentalhealthadvocate

Dax appreciation post ❤️

One in ten people in the world hear voices. There's a myriad of reasons someone might hear voices ranging from PTSD to having the flu. ⁠
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It happens to so many people all over the world. But why is it viewed as "a crazy person's problem?"⁠
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Well, thanks to the way mental illness and health is portrayed in the media, many who experience hallucinations of one kind or another are afraid to share their experience with voices. Film and television also poorly portray hearing voices, with the primary focus being on the demon voices and voices that tell people to do something bad. ⁠
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Here are the people who hear voices: ⁠
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Postpartum mothers⁠
Veterans⁠
Those with PTSD⁠
Someone experiencing delirium ⁠
People with lack of sleep⁠
Stressed out humans⁠
Those who have lost a loved one⁠
Kids being bullied⁠
People experiencing abuse⁠
+ many others who are probably just like you. ⁠
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Mental Health Disorders that classify "voice hearing" as a symptom: ⁠
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Psychosis⁠
Schizophrenia⁠
Bipolar disorder I and II⁠
High-functioning anxiety⁠
Severe depression⁠
Schizoaffective disorder⁠
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So the next time you hear someone speaking ill of the voice hearers, share this post with them. #themoreyouknow⁠
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#voices #ihearvoices #mentalhealthpodcast #mentalhealth #voicehearing #mentalhealthawareness #mentalillness #adhd #bipolar #learnoninstagram #learnsomethingnew #graphics

You know Fox is autistic and I’m ADHD. Dax has a 20% chance of also being autistic-but we won’t know for at least a year (if we’re lucky). Being the parent of a special needs kiddo is so difficult. My own identity can often get so wrapped up in being a SPED parent that I often forget I am more than this. ALSO that I, like all other SPED parents need allies in our life.

It’s not just about having friends and family that are allies, it’s the entire public.

3.5 million Americans have an ASD diagnosis and even more Americans don’t understand how to ally with SPED kids’ parents or even just how to interact with autistics. In business, I’ve had business owners tout how great they are for hiring an “autistic person” as if it makes them better than everyone else. Like…cringe, no…

Autistic kids and adults wanted to be treated like humans, not tokens to feel better about ourselves. Parents also wanted to be treated with kindness and respect when we’re living our normal lives with our special kids.

So I created this diagram to help neurotypicals understand how to show parents like me you’re with us-that you’re here to stand by us as we raise these incredible kids.

#autismawareness #autismmom #autismacceptance #spedtribe #neurodivergent #parenting101 #allyship #mentalhealthpodcast #mentalhealth

New pics sliding in from @madisonryleephotography. Which is your fave?

Figured I’d share Halloween.

Finally went to @schnepffarms for the pumpkin patch and carnival. We chose the last day of the month and there were very little pumpkins left but also not a lot of people there. The social distancing was pretty great and so we’re the corn dogs.

My little bee and Arya had fun on all the rides and Dax did pretty dang good the whole time we were there.

earlier this week on the podcast in my episode with Michelle we talked specifically about social media breaks. I’m really happy to say that Saturday and Sunday I took a break from social media I didn’t worry about any of it. Social media breaks don’t have to be for months at a time or even weeks at a time. They can be just a few days. Taking time to decompress and spend time with actual humans in real life can be really great.

Taking a break from social media is a really great idea especially if your mental health is suffering lately. With the holidays coming up and stress probably going to be at max level for a lot of people take this time to plan out your social media break.

and meantime enjoy some pictures from the carnival fun that we had.

#FallFestival #Halloween #PumpkinFestival #PumpkinPatch #FamilyTime #SocialMediaBreak #SocialMediaApps #HotTake #SundayFunDay #BabyLife #BabyBoy #MomLife #MentalHealth #MentalHealthPodcast #SocialMediaTherapy

My episode with @michelleismoneyhungry came out earlier this week and it is SO GOOD.

In the episode we talk about social media breaks, how to take them as a business owner, and why they’re good for creativity. And of course we go deeper into the mindset around breaks and toxicity on social media.

Link to podcast in my bio!

Only a few hours left of @emotionalcollidescope’s Kickstarter! Watch my reel on the details surrounding the Introspection Deck and click the link in my bio to check out and back the Kickstarter!

Questions I’ve been asking myself this week…

What are some things you wished had no implications?

Are you aware of what effects an emotionally traumatic event may have on the body or mind?

What is the bravest thing you’ve done for yourself?

For me, I find that last question important because the bravest thing I ever did was leave my abuser. You all know how frequently I talk about abuse and trauma and healing, right?

I’ve had some people look at these conversations I post online and ask me why I am so fixated on my victim hood and how I victimize myself…😆😒🙄.

I’ll get back to the victim thing in a moment but first here’s a stat: 70% of women who leave their abusers are murdered when they leave. This is applicable to any type of abuse-not just physical.

So for me, I find it offensive and damaging to tell survivors of abuse that their choice to talk about the abuse they experienced, share knowledge they now have about abuse, and share their recovery from traumatic experiences is “victimizing” themselves or not moving on.

We all choose to process and heal in our own ways and we need to respect each other’s journey.

These cards take me deeper than just a surface level question or answer, they lead me down a path of more questions, finding deeper meaning, and/or uncovering problem areas.

The kick starter ends on Saturday, October 30, so if you’re interested in backing this project click the link in my bio. In fact you should back this project. It’s just an easy tool to get that leads you toward a deeper meaning and understanding of your own self.

These cards from @emotionalcollidescope are so legit.

So, this morning I had a really intense therapy session. But I didn’t wanna go too far deep down the depression part because I wanted to ensure I would be able to function and work the rest of the day and be available for the new nanny.

With most of the day done, I have been able to draw a few cards from this deck and ask myself important questions I did not have the opportunity to ask myself during therapy this morning.

The amount of self-awareness and understanding I have generated for my own self regarding why I have been feeling angry and depressed over the last few days has really helped clear my head and get me back to functioning positively.

i’ve been utilizing these cars over the last few days and have been able to generate a certain level of self-awareness and understanding that I don’t normally give myself the time to do. This is mainly because I just don’t know what questions to ask myself. This deck of cards does the hard work for me.

The kick starter runs until Saturday this weekend and if you want to get your hands on a A card deck or two I highly recommend clicking the link in my bio and heading over to the kick starter page and making your pledge!

do you have any questions let me know in the comments myself or @emotionalcollidescope will be able to answer them for you!

The quick link is www.sarahapotter.com/emotionalco!

#MentalHealthAwareness #MentalHealth#TerrellCard #TarotCards #TarotCardDeck #TarotCardsDaily #TarotReading #MentalHealthMatters #MentalHealthDay #DepressionAndAnxiety #Depression #Therapy #therapyworks #TherapistsOfInstagram

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Have you ever wanted to ask yourself deeper questions that invoke a higher level of thinking? Coming out of a therapy session and remembering all the things to ask yourself is really hard on both a pre-conscious, conscious, and subconscious level. But this deck available on Kickstarter right now is honestly solving this issue for me.

It’s not only great for continuing your healing work post-therapy but is great for those who are looking for tools to strengthen their mental health and develop a more intimate understanding of themselves.

Self-awareness is so KEY in life. It was something that was most likely not taught to you as a kid or teen, and now you’re lacking the role models that can help you develop emotional tool.

That’s where Emotional Collidescope’s “The Introspection Deck” comes into play. The Introspection Deck of cards is a holistic resource to help support, nurture, and improve mental wellbeing. By harnessing the power of human connections, I hope to foster a safe space to express feelings, thoughts, and emotions.

The inspiration here comes from Sigmund Freud’s Three Levels of Mind: conscious, preconscious, and subconscious. His theory formed the basis of my in-depth set of questions. The intentions of these cards are a starting point to take a deep dive into understanding self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and compassionate listening.

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Art by @debenedetto.giovanni, @omniarcink, and @stephzartistry

#kickstarterproject #kickstartercampaign #kickstarter #crowdfunding #indiegogo #gofundme #crowdfundingcampaign #carddeck #carddesign #cards #tarotcards #tarotreading #selfawareness #selfawa

If you've been following me on TikTok, you know very well what could have caused your childhood trauma.

But, how does it affect us later in life–as adults? In far-reaching scary ways is my initial thought, but what if we're neurodivergent?

How does trauma as a whole affect kids with ADHD, who are autistic, have other issues that could affect their ability to cope?

Also, what the hell is happening to our bodies physically when we have prolonged exposure to trauma? Tune in this week to find out with our special guest–Vanessa Rosage!

This week we’re speaking with Vanessa Rosage, LPC. Vanessa has been a therapist for 14 years. Currently, she runs a private practice and works primarily with children, parents, families, couples, adolescents and young adults. During her time with her patients, she uses several tools to help each patient and has a foundational theoretical orientation that is rooted in interpersonal neurobiology, which aims to heal trauma, anxiety, fear and shame through the connection and relationship between people. As a trained DEEP specialist, Vanessa understands how to create safe and healing environments in the therapeutic relationship.

Follow Vanessa: @elemental_liberation

#childhoodtrauma #traumahealing #traumarecovery #healingquotes #healingjourney

I am so thrilled to finally release my episode with @mastermindbusinessservices! In this episode Rachel and I discuss the mental health aspects of creating content for a platform we hate and some of the abuses we experience as women in the corporate world.

Find Rachel on Instagram at @rachel.pereyra.consults, @mastermindbusinessservices, and @theopsauthority

From Rachel: “So I feel like a lot of not a lot, but some of what I do is educate people on why marketing and operations are different things. And you do want different people doing those things. Because, well, I feel like I am a creative left brained person, I am not a marketing strategist, and I am not, you do not want to let me loose in your Canva account.

It's not pretty. And so when I first started out, I would get so frustrated during my own marketing, because I just felt like, I have this very clear vision in my head.

But I was having trouble articulating it and making my graphics and like making it all work and match and like attracting the right person. And because I was spending so much of my energy thinking about my marketing, I wasn't able to spend my energy thinking about like getting clarity on who I'm supposed to even be talking to. And I think anyone who's in marketing or just business in general knows if you're talking to everybody, you're talking to nobody.

Yeah, the first thing the very first role I outsource in my business was marketing. And I have an amazing marketing strategist now who helps keep me on the straight and narrow I still I'm slowly frying my cold dead fingers off of coffee. But the rest of it the graphics, you know, when when to pose the reading your content pillars and hashtags.

Like, my brain doesn't do that. And so yeah, I think it's amazing those of you that do marketing and can do all of that. It's just, it was overwhelming. And I and I started to really resent Instagram as a platform just in general.”

#SocialMedia #TherapistsOfInstagram #SocialMediaMarketing #MentalHealthAwareness #MentalHealth #SocialMediaTherapy #CorporateAmerica #Feminist #PodcastByWomen #PodcastForWomen#MentalHealthPodcast

The other day on the clock app, I heard an audio on how we cling to certain things in our post-trauma life. These things can be creature comforts, books, characters, makeup, dress up, etc.

The list honestly goes on! There is so much out there in the world people with trauma cling to so they can feel better. For me, I had lost all sense of self, my personality was gone, my inner strength was taken from me…

I tried so hard to find ways to bolster myself, to reignite the passion within me. It wasn’t until Daenerys Targaryen began to come into her own, post her own trauma, that I began to cling to her.

I saw in her some semblance of my own self that I wanted to become. Her strength, resilience, love, compassion, empathy, vengeance… all of it I wanted or myself.

When she says, “So many men have tried to kill me. I don't remember all of their names. I have been sold like a brood mare. I have been chained and betrayed, raped and defiled. Do you know what kept me standing through all those years in exile? Faith. Not in any gods. Not in myths and legends. In myself. In Daenerys Targaryen.”

That’s what I had–faith in myself, never letting go in an unrelenting world where I was abused and taken advantage of time and time again.

When I started cosplaying as Daenerys I really felt her power. I began to embody that power and exude that inner strength wherever I can. Her story is similar to mine. It might be similar to yours.

Whether you think she was a villain or not doesn’t matter. Who she was in her core, does. I love Daenerys, she helped me come back into my own and I’ll always remember her the way she was in season 7…not 8 🤣.

#cosplay #daenerystargaryenedit #daenerystargaryen #daeneryscosplay #daenerysstormborn #cosplaygirl #halloween #gameofthrones #mentalhealth #traumarecovery #houseofthedragon #housetargaryen

On my #tiktok channel I go into detail about these amazing gummies @arieswellness gifted me. They taste great AND they’re CBD gummy bears with 0.03% THC. By far the best CBD product I’ve had ever.

It has been helping with my headaches, anxiety, and sleep!

Reading to baby brother. Whenever I need a minute to just sit down and breathe, fox and Arya are so great about helping out (mostly).

Recorded an episode with @strawberrywombat today. Childhood trauma story series happening within the podcast now and Jon is up first. He’s also the sound mixer for my podcast, @sad.skull.zero is my editor, and @tholm23 is the creative director-although I haven’t been using him as much even though he’s five feet away.

This boy crawled three steps today.

Childhood trauma shapes the pathways we walk in order to define ourselves as individuals in life.

So when that pathway is riddled with toxic and traumatic experiences it can cause someone to be

A people pleaser
A Toxic communicator
Unable to set boundaries
Susceptible to abusive partners
Socially anxious
Unaware of their own needs
Afraid of being abandoned
A fixer
Codependent

So how do you heal these things?

You begin reshaping the traumatized pathways in your mind. You recognize when you’re feeling triggered and you begin incorporating self soothing techniques.

These techniques could be…

- Validate how you feel
- Give yourself some grace to feel into your trigger
- Take a step back and do something else
- Meditate
- Take deep breaths
- Lay down and take a nap
- Tune out and tune into your favorite show
- Listen to your favorite songs

How do you #selfsoothe?

#selfcare #selflove #compassion #empathy #recovery